Category Archives: good times

Tempus Fugit

A friend who was staying with us over the weekend was asking me if my perception of time had changed since I quit my job to become a SAHM. If you’d asked me before the Hatchling’s arrival, I’d have thought that’s exactly what would have happened – the days would all blend together, I wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between Monday and Friday, blah, blah, blah. But I’ll tell you, if there’s one thing that’s going to make you feel the difference between the work week and the weekend, it’s being the stay-at-home parent. The clock hits 5, you better believe I’m watching the clock for Mr. Squab to get home. And weekends are when I’m not the sole caregiver during the day! Woot!

But where I have noticed some warping in my sense of time is in the passage of the months and seasons. For example, I’m having the devil of a time remembering that it’s January, that we’re in a new year. It just doesn’t compute, somehow. When I was working in corporate hell, the seasons passed, tantalizingly, outside the windows of my skyscraper. Sure, it was kind of cool to watch the snow falling from the 20th floor, or see the stormclouds gathering miles away. But my abiding response to the year passing was one of wishing I were “out there” in the weather, in the world – anywhere but facing another day in that damn cubicle. So maybe that accounts for the shift: now I can be “out there” whenever I want. There’s nothing the Hatchling loves more than being outside. Whatever the weather, as soon as we step out the door she smiles and sticks out her tongue, tasting the air delightedly. When the leaves are falling, we can go and catch them right then – no waiting until 5:00 or until this meeting is over or until the project is done. When the snow flies, we can stand in front of the window for hours if we want to, watching the flakes fall – and then go out and have a snowball fight or make snow ice cream or whatever. It’s, you know, pretty fucking awesome. Even when Mr. Squab doesn’t get off work on time.

In other news, the Hatchling had her 9 month well-baby check today, and what do you know, she is one well baby! 21 lbs, 11 oz (90th percentile), head circumference 46.4 cm (95th percentile), and height 29 1/2 inches (off the charts). I told the doctor that people often mistake her for a 1-year-old, and he was like, “Yeah, well, that’s because she’s the size of an average 1-year-old.” Pah. “Average.” As if.

Adventures in parenting hilarity

A.k.a., my husband is a whore for baby laughs.

So lately, the Hatchling is waaaaay into naked time. It’s funny, because as a newborn she hated being naked; take off her sleeper and she acted like you were actually removing her skin, and why did you hate her so much? Now, though, it’s a whole ‘nother story. (Yeah, I said “whole ‘nother.” I’m from the south, dammit. We get to do that.) Now, when it gets to be her cranky time of the evening, all we have to do is strip her down and she’s all smiles and kicks and stretches and chubby little arms waving in the air. Naked = awesome. Part of the attraction may be how brief it is. We are, after all, living in an old, drafty house in Minnesota in the middle of winter. So it’s not like we can really let her be unclothed for hours at a time. But if you ask me, the REAL reason she loves it so much is that her father has developed some stunning moves around taking her clothes off. It started with a fairly simple zipping off of her socks while saying “zzzzzZZZZIP!” with each one and waving her sock in the air. She was a big fan of that, and now the undressing routine has escalated to truly Marxian (Groucho, not Karl) proportions. This evening’s performance culminated with Mr. Squab whipping off the Hatchling’s pants, then flagellating himself repeatedly with them, interspersing the flagellations with a resounding “BUUUUUUURP!” The Hatchling could hardly contain herself she was laughing so hard. Hell, I could hardly contain myself. Who thinks of stuff like that? More importantly, will I be able to capture it on video? Because that shit needs to be shared with the interwebs.

Up, up, and away

Don’t you wish you could still do this? I do.

Flying Ellie

Flaunting it

Autumn is my favoritefavoritefavorite season. It’s tragically short here in Minnesota, which really makes you want to squeeze the joy out of every nice day you get. In academic life, through grad school and adjuncting, I could always make time for a stroll in the woods or coffee outside at my favorite cafe – some little thing to cherish the fading year. Then I started – reluctantly – working in the corporate world, and nice autumn days were just one more way for fate to mock me.

Being a SAHM isn’t always a walk in the park, but it beats being a cubicle jockey by a marathon’s worth of miles, and one of the reasons is that it’s given me back my autumn. This has been an unseasonably cold October, but the past week has had a couple of really glorious days. On one of them, P and I took our babies to the Peace Park at Lake Harriet where a new statue was being dedicated. There were Japanese drummers, a cheesy folk singer, and loads and loads of paper cranes. The sun was shining, the park was full of bleeding heart post-hippie tree-huggers, and the babies dozed happily to the cacophonous sounds of the Taiko drums. Then, today, the Hatchling and I had to run an errand near a little shopping district in Edina, so we took the opportunity to take a stroll around the neighborhood, stopping for coffee (me) and wee crumbs of scone (the Hatchling) at the local coffee shop. We sat outside and watched the cars go by, and people stopped to tell me how adorable the Hatchling is, and we soaked up the autumn sun like vitamin D-deficient flowers. And I thought to myself, This is the good stuff. I hope I never take it for granted.